What is your path in life?

Family and peers have a huge impact on the choices we make in life. These are people who have been with us from a very early age. It makes sense that our choices will be influenced by these people, right? We have all been put in a situation where the decision to make ourselves happy and the decision to make those around us happy don’t align. Are you being pressured by loved ones to walk a path that doesn’t necessarily make you happy? For most of us, the answer is yes. Life can yield some pretty hard decisions over the years. Sometimes you have to make the decisions that are best for you regardless of how other people feel. This is your life, after all.

Our friends and family want what is best for us. These people will push us so hard to do well in life. Sometimes, they just don’t realize the decisions they’re trying to get you to make are not decisions that you want to make. I have been pressured by my family from a young age to join the medical field. I am one year away from completing my nursing degree. One day, I had to stop myself and ask if this is what I really wanted from life. The answer is no. I have invested three years of college towards something that I don’t want to do.

My message to you is make yourself happy. I want all of you to stop and think about where you are at in life. Are you satisfied? Are you investing in yourself? Here are some tips to consider:

  • Evaluate. Think about what you want in life. Make sure you’re making decisions based on what you want to do. Don’t let other people persuade you to make decisions that will steer you away from what you want to do.
  • Consider your own happiness. Making sure you are happy is the most important part of my message.
  • Plan. Start working towards your path. Perhaps you want to be a nurse, a writer, an actor, etc. Whatever you want to do in life, start working towards it.
  • Seek help. If you know what path you want to take but don’t know where to start, seek help. Contact other people who are in the profession you would like to join. Ask them how they got where they’re at in their career.

The sky is the limit. You only live once. It is so important to focus on making yourself happy. Even taking one small step at a time will get you moving in the right direction. Best of luck!

Mental Health

Mental health is a topic that is often avoided in conversation. However, mental health is a huge part of being a healthy person. A healthy mind leads to a healthy life. Every person has something that they can do to work on their mental health. Here are a few tips to work on your mental health. Stay healthy.

  • Focus on doing things that make you happy each day. Spend time working on your hobbies. No matter what your hobbies are, take time for yourself to do something you enjoy.
  • Set time aside to evaluate your goals. Make sure the path you’re walking is leading you the direction you’re trying to go in life. If you don’t, you’re likely to experience cognitive dissonance. This is when your thoughts, actions, and beliefs don’t line up. When you experience cognitive dissonance, you’ll continue to be in a state of stress and unhappiness until you make the necessary changes to resolve the cognitive dissonance.
  • Change your perspective. When you train your mind to see the best in every situation, you’ll begin to become happier and stress less.
  • Get some exercise. Exercise releases dopamine into the brain. Dopamine is a chemical released that makes the mind feel happy. This is why exercise plays such an important role in making people happy when they’re stressed. Try to exercise a little each day. This will improve your overall mental state.
  • Remove stress from your life. Are you hanging out with the wrong group of people? Is your hard-work at your job constantly going unnoticed? Life can be stressful and it is something that everyone experiences. However, too much stress will take a negative toll on the mind. Find ways to remove unnecessary stress.
  • Talk to someone about how you are feeling. Talking to someone can reduce your stress. Take a second to talk to a friend or family member. The people close to you may be able to help you but might not see that you have something on your chest that you need to talk about. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone, write it in a journal. Expressing your feelings is really good for the mind.

Remember, no matter what you’re going through, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you’re doing well in life, following these tips will improve the quality of your life. Be safe, have fun, stay healthy.

Toxicity

This is a message from my heart. I have recently let go of a person who was very important to me because of their constant negativity. I was being held back. I lost all of my motivation. Ultimately, I lost who I was. It got to a point where I was unable to smile. I wasn’t myself. I allowed this person to stay in my life for an entire year. Over time, the people around me noticed the change. I’m a very social and happy person but I didn’t want to speak to people anymore. When I finally made the decision to let go of this person, people commented on my constant smiling again. I very quickly became myself once more. This was a huge life lesson that I will happily share.

There will be people in your life who keep you from growing. You may love these people and choose to ignore the fact that they are holding you back. You may even recognize that you’re being held back. I recognized that I was being held back but I allowed the negative person to stay in my life for a year. Why did I and why do you let these people stay? Is it your friends, your family, a partner? Sometimes you have to walk alone to find yourself. Your perspective on life can be influenced by those around you. Their words and thoughts have power over you. Life is about growing. There is a purpose for you in your life but you have to grow. You have to let go of some people and overcome the obstacles in your life.

The two pictures are the same image. One can be perceived as gloomy. The other is a very beautiful image of a nice day. This first image is the influence that the wrong people have on you. The color is drained in the first image. The other if full of life. Do not let someone drain you. Be happy and full of life. You have the power in yourself to be successful without others. It is better to walk alone and to be yourself than to let someone take the color from your life. Be happy. Be free. Be beautifully yourself.

Choose Happy

Happiness is an easy concept. It is the feeling of being content. How do you measure it in your own life? Do you feel like you could be more happy in life? I believe that you should put your happiness first. As I grow as a person, I see so many people settle in their life. Pick a career that makes you happy. Pick a partner who makes you happy. Surround yourself with friends who make you happy. Spend time doing hobbies that you enjoy. When you are truly happy with your life, you will be successful. Your job isn’t important if you spend your time there wanting to leave. Your partner isn’t the right one if you spend most of your time around them unhappy. Your friends aren’t the right group of people if they drag you down. Put people in your life who want you to be successful. Change is difficult. It is uncertain but change is the first step to a happier life. I have spent the past week focusing on my own happiness. I spent a lot of time hiking and being around the people who make me happy. I believe that each of us, myself included, can make small changes that will impact us for the rest of our life. It’s time to grow. I wish all of you the best!

The Power of Your Thoughts

Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy. It depends solely on your outlook on life. A quote by Henry Ford states, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right”. This quote holds a lot of truth, especially in everyday life. If you wake up to go work at a job you can’t stand, you aren’t going to be happy. The paycheck isn’t worth the sacrifice. If you force yourself to stay in a relationship that you don’t want to be in, you aren’t going to be happy. If you break yourself down and continue to fill your mind with negativity, you will not be successful in your actions. However, if you believe in yourself and your own capabilities, you will have a much higher chance of success in all that you do. In order to grow and be happy, you have to trust yourself. Each of you have a flame burning inside of you, a passion, a goal, a story to share. Let your flames burn bright. Be the light in someones darkness. Don’t be the reason that another persons flame dies out. Be happy, be proud, be bold, and above all else, just be yourself. When you are true to yourself, you can overcome any obstacle put in your path. While unfortunate things happen in life, the way that you react to those situations are what define you as a person. Are you going to allow yourself to grow? Will you let yourself sink? The choice is yours.