Five Lessons You Learn As You Grow Up

  1. Your Time is Valuable

Your time is the most valuable thing you have. How you spend your time will have a huge impact on your life. Time is an investment. You can invest your time in an education, certification classes, starting a business, healthy hobbies, or with your friends and family. Make sure the way you invest your time is healthy. Once you spend your time, you can’t get it back.

2. Change is Natural

As you grow up, you will change. You will begin to age and mature. You won’t be the same person you were five years ago. Each day is a chance to better yourself or learn something new. Your interests, hobbies, favorite songs, and your favorite foods, will all change over time. Your friends will change too. Some of your friendships might end while others grow closer. Unfortunately, loved ones will pass over time. Spend as much time with the people you love while you can. Focus on being happy. Change is natural and inevitable.

3. You Don’t Deserve To Be Mistreated

This may seem like a common sense statement, but people accept disrespect in several forms for various reasons. You don’t deserve to be mistreated by family. If a family member is speaking to you in an abusive manner or mistreating you, you don’t have to stay in that situation. You don’t deserve to be mistreated by a partner. Your partner is supposed to complete you, not tear you down. Your partner should be a person who lifts you up, not someone who brings you down. You don’t deserve to be mistreated by your employer. There are actions you can take at your job if you are in a situation where you are being mistreated or bullied. You don’t deserve to be mistreated. It is important to communicate with others when their behavior is abusive.

4. Your Mental Health Matters

Mental health is a subject that is often completely avoided. It is also highly stigmatized. People associate mental health with problems. Mental health isn’t a negative subject. Mental health is just the state of your mind. Life is stressful and there will be points in your life where you need to talk to someone. Seeing a therapist is okay and it isn’t just for people who struggle with mental health issues. Sometimes people go through situations, such as the loss of a loved one, that will make you feel things that aren’t healthy. Doing things such as hiking, seeing friends, getting your nails done, having a night with the guys, etc. are all examples of things you can do to keep your mental health in a good state. Your mental health matters.

5. Finances Are Important

How you spend your money when you are young will have a huge impact on the things you can do when you are older. It is important to start saving from a young age. Roughly 78% of workers are living paycheck to paycheck. That is an insane number of people who are not thinking ahead. Being laid off, getting injured and not being able to work, a car breaking down, and so many other scenarios would negatively impact a majority of people. It is important to save money from every paycheck to ensure you can handle emergencies. Being smart with money means you can go on more vacations or afford a day off of work if you need to.

Life will teach you many things as you grow up. Let the situations you encounter serve as lessons and not misfortunes. Always remember to work on yourself.

What is your path in life?

Family and peers have a huge impact on the choices we make in life. These are people who have been with us from a very early age. It makes sense that our choices will be influenced by these people, right? We have all been put in a situation where the decision to make ourselves happy and the decision to make those around us happy don’t align. Are you being pressured by loved ones to walk a path that doesn’t necessarily make you happy? For most of us, the answer is yes. Life can yield some pretty hard decisions over the years. Sometimes you have to make the decisions that are best for you regardless of how other people feel. This is your life, after all.

Our friends and family want what is best for us. These people will push us so hard to do well in life. Sometimes, they just don’t realize the decisions they’re trying to get you to make are not decisions that you want to make. I have been pressured by my family from a young age to join the medical field. I am one year away from completing my nursing degree. One day, I had to stop myself and ask if this is what I really wanted from life. The answer is no. I have invested three years of college towards something that I don’t want to do.

My message to you is make yourself happy. I want all of you to stop and think about where you are at in life. Are you satisfied? Are you investing in yourself? Here are some tips to consider:

  • Evaluate. Think about what you want in life. Make sure you’re making decisions based on what you want to do. Don’t let other people persuade you to make decisions that will steer you away from what you want to do.
  • Consider your own happiness. Making sure you are happy is the most important part of my message.
  • Plan. Start working towards your path. Perhaps you want to be a nurse, a writer, an actor, etc. Whatever you want to do in life, start working towards it.
  • Seek help. If you know what path you want to take but don’t know where to start, seek help. Contact other people who are in the profession you would like to join. Ask them how they got where they’re at in their career.

The sky is the limit. You only live once. It is so important to focus on making yourself happy. Even taking one small step at a time will get you moving in the right direction. Best of luck!