Five Lessons You Learn As You Grow Up

  1. Your Time is Valuable

Your time is the most valuable thing you have. How you spend your time will have a huge impact on your life. Time is an investment. You can invest your time in an education, certification classes, starting a business, healthy hobbies, or with your friends and family. Make sure the way you invest your time is healthy. Once you spend your time, you can’t get it back.

2. Change is Natural

As you grow up, you will change. You will begin to age and mature. You won’t be the same person you were five years ago. Each day is a chance to better yourself or learn something new. Your interests, hobbies, favorite songs, and your favorite foods, will all change over time. Your friends will change too. Some of your friendships might end while others grow closer. Unfortunately, loved ones will pass over time. Spend as much time with the people you love while you can. Focus on being happy. Change is natural and inevitable.

3. You Don’t Deserve To Be Mistreated

This may seem like a common sense statement, but people accept disrespect in several forms for various reasons. You don’t deserve to be mistreated by family. If a family member is speaking to you in an abusive manner or mistreating you, you don’t have to stay in that situation. You don’t deserve to be mistreated by a partner. Your partner is supposed to complete you, not tear you down. Your partner should be a person who lifts you up, not someone who brings you down. You don’t deserve to be mistreated by your employer. There are actions you can take at your job if you are in a situation where you are being mistreated or bullied. You don’t deserve to be mistreated. It is important to communicate with others when their behavior is abusive.

4. Your Mental Health Matters

Mental health is a subject that is often completely avoided. It is also highly stigmatized. People associate mental health with problems. Mental health isn’t a negative subject. Mental health is just the state of your mind. Life is stressful and there will be points in your life where you need to talk to someone. Seeing a therapist is okay and it isn’t just for people who struggle with mental health issues. Sometimes people go through situations, such as the loss of a loved one, that will make you feel things that aren’t healthy. Doing things such as hiking, seeing friends, getting your nails done, having a night with the guys, etc. are all examples of things you can do to keep your mental health in a good state. Your mental health matters.

5. Finances Are Important

How you spend your money when you are young will have a huge impact on the things you can do when you are older. It is important to start saving from a young age. Roughly 78% of workers are living paycheck to paycheck. That is an insane number of people who are not thinking ahead. Being laid off, getting injured and not being able to work, a car breaking down, and so many other scenarios would negatively impact a majority of people. It is important to save money from every paycheck to ensure you can handle emergencies. Being smart with money means you can go on more vacations or afford a day off of work if you need to.

Life will teach you many things as you grow up. Let the situations you encounter serve as lessons and not misfortunes. Always remember to work on yourself.

Mental Health

Mental health is a topic that is often avoided in conversation. However, mental health is a huge part of being a healthy person. A healthy mind leads to a healthy life. Every person has something that they can do to work on their mental health. Here are a few tips to work on your mental health. Stay healthy.

  • Focus on doing things that make you happy each day. Spend time working on your hobbies. No matter what your hobbies are, take time for yourself to do something you enjoy.
  • Set time aside to evaluate your goals. Make sure the path you’re walking is leading you the direction you’re trying to go in life. If you don’t, you’re likely to experience cognitive dissonance. This is when your thoughts, actions, and beliefs don’t line up. When you experience cognitive dissonance, you’ll continue to be in a state of stress and unhappiness until you make the necessary changes to resolve the cognitive dissonance.
  • Change your perspective. When you train your mind to see the best in every situation, you’ll begin to become happier and stress less.
  • Get some exercise. Exercise releases dopamine into the brain. Dopamine is a chemical released that makes the mind feel happy. This is why exercise plays such an important role in making people happy when they’re stressed. Try to exercise a little each day. This will improve your overall mental state.
  • Remove stress from your life. Are you hanging out with the wrong group of people? Is your hard-work at your job constantly going unnoticed? Life can be stressful and it is something that everyone experiences. However, too much stress will take a negative toll on the mind. Find ways to remove unnecessary stress.
  • Talk to someone about how you are feeling. Talking to someone can reduce your stress. Take a second to talk to a friend or family member. The people close to you may be able to help you but might not see that you have something on your chest that you need to talk about. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone, write it in a journal. Expressing your feelings is really good for the mind.

Remember, no matter what you’re going through, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you’re doing well in life, following these tips will improve the quality of your life. Be safe, have fun, stay healthy.

Toxicity

This is a message from my heart. I have recently let go of a person who was very important to me because of their constant negativity. I was being held back. I lost all of my motivation. Ultimately, I lost who I was. It got to a point where I was unable to smile. I wasn’t myself. I allowed this person to stay in my life for an entire year. Over time, the people around me noticed the change. I’m a very social and happy person but I didn’t want to speak to people anymore. When I finally made the decision to let go of this person, people commented on my constant smiling again. I very quickly became myself once more. This was a huge life lesson that I will happily share.

There will be people in your life who keep you from growing. You may love these people and choose to ignore the fact that they are holding you back. You may even recognize that you’re being held back. I recognized that I was being held back but I allowed the negative person to stay in my life for a year. Why did I and why do you let these people stay? Is it your friends, your family, a partner? Sometimes you have to walk alone to find yourself. Your perspective on life can be influenced by those around you. Their words and thoughts have power over you. Life is about growing. There is a purpose for you in your life but you have to grow. You have to let go of some people and overcome the obstacles in your life.

The two pictures are the same image. One can be perceived as gloomy. The other is a very beautiful image of a nice day. This first image is the influence that the wrong people have on you. The color is drained in the first image. The other if full of life. Do not let someone drain you. Be happy and full of life. You have the power in yourself to be successful without others. It is better to walk alone and to be yourself than to let someone take the color from your life. Be happy. Be free. Be beautifully yourself.

Choose Happy

Happiness is an easy concept. It is the feeling of being content. How do you measure it in your own life? Do you feel like you could be more happy in life? I believe that you should put your happiness first. As I grow as a person, I see so many people settle in their life. Pick a career that makes you happy. Pick a partner who makes you happy. Surround yourself with friends who make you happy. Spend time doing hobbies that you enjoy. When you are truly happy with your life, you will be successful. Your job isn’t important if you spend your time there wanting to leave. Your partner isn’t the right one if you spend most of your time around them unhappy. Your friends aren’t the right group of people if they drag you down. Put people in your life who want you to be successful. Change is difficult. It is uncertain but change is the first step to a happier life. I have spent the past week focusing on my own happiness. I spent a lot of time hiking and being around the people who make me happy. I believe that each of us, myself included, can make small changes that will impact us for the rest of our life. It’s time to grow. I wish all of you the best!